Niels Werber

“Eine für alles” or The woman who heals every wound 

Romantic love instead of functional differentiation of society

This brief lecture on Romantic love and literature is based on the following thesis: The specific Romantic coding of intimacy in the medium of literature and, most of all, in the novel (”Roman”) is one of several strategies reacting on the functional differentiation of society and trying to dissolve its consequences through the reintegration of the individual into a post-differentiated totality. This totality occurs in several forms, and one of them is the holistic vision of Romantic love. I will proceed in four steps. 

1.I will begin with a reading of some quotations from Romantic texts as examples of the attempts to include the entire individual in the absolute symbiosis of Romantic love. 

2.Then I will try to sketch the self-description of society around 1800 as a reflection of functional differentiation and as an insight into the decomposition of the literally indivisible individual into a plurality of roles.

3.The third step describes the mode of therapy: the Romantic suggestions to escape the constraints of modern society in the medium of aesthetic education (Schiller), of religion (Novalis), of ‘new mythology’ (Hölderlin, Schelling, Hegel, Schlegel) or, last not least, love.

4.Finally, I will try to read the semantics of love in Schlegel´s Lucinde as a back-coupling between proto-sociological observations of modernity and literary strategies to overcome the very framework of this society.

1. Examples of Romantic love

In his only novel (1797), Friedrich Hölderlin narrates the love-tale of Hyperion and Diotima. Hyperion, suffering from the so-called ”prosaic state of the world” (Hegel) and the modern alienation of mankind, god, and nature, finds in his love to Diotima a nearly perfect remedy. Whereas his descriptions of the present state are characterised by a semantics of dissection and fragmentation, the discourse of his love is shaped by a semantics of wholeness and unity. In this context of extreme alternatives, love becomes the existential question of all or nothing:

“Was mir nicht Alles, und ewig Alles ist, ist mir Nichts,” Hyperion writes to his friend Bellarmin, continuing: “wo finden wir das Eine [...] ? Ach! [...] wenn nur Ein Paar [...] Ein Herz, Ein unzertrennbares Leben würden.”[1]

”Ein”/One is always written in capital letters. Hyperion believes to constitute a unity with this woman and is convinced that mankind is not made for separation and particularity at all: ”Wir sind nicht fürs Einzelne, Beschränkte geschaffen.”[2] Knowing and loving Diotima, Hyperion declares that his mistress means everything to him: ”O so bist du ja mir Alles, rief ich!”[3] As Hyperion, at this point, does not reflect on the social improbability and the preconditions of his descriptions, he is using metaphors of nature to express his supposed unity with Diotima: 

”Wir waren Eine Blume nur, und unsre Seelen lebten in einander, wie die Blume, wenn sie liebt, und ihre zarten Freuden im verschloßnen Kelche verbirgt.”[4]

He compares the union of their love with a flower which conceals its intimacy behind its calyxes: a perfect image for the Romantic exclusion of the present social environment. If society figures at all in Hyperion´s thinking, it is in the mode of a utopian future emerging from Romantic love. The relationship of Hyperion and Diotima functions as a model for the new golden age of society. 

”Unsere Seelen lebten nun immer freier und schöner zusammen, und alles in und um uns vereinigte sich zu goldenem Frieden.”[5]

Romantic love: That is the total inclusion of every personal aspect of two individuals in a highly intensive relationship, Romantic love is the prototype of the final conciliation of nature, society and mankind in a universal harmony:

“Wie der Zwist der Liebenden, sind die Dissonanzen der Welt. Versöhnung ist mitten im Streit und alles Getrennte findet sich wieder.”[6]

Everything that has been separated by the social division of labour, everybody who has been fragmented by the dissection of the individual into a plurality of social roles will be healed and become re-united with the separated or alienated other. Modern man, playing occasionally the role of consumer or producer, voter or politician, debtor or creditor, researcher or student, defendant or judge, without ever playing exclusively one part or the other, will leave all these roles and masquerades behind to be only himself, like he has been in former, pre-modern epochs when each person was unquestionably united with his social role as knight, farmer, priest or craftsman. The Romantic paradigm for the post-modern restoration of the pre-modern unity of person and social role is love because the semantics of Romantic love suggests the complete inclusion of every part of a person in a relationship. Hyperion, contemplating on a future born out of the spirit of Romantic love, gives his prognosis: 

“Es wird nur Eine Schönheit sein; und Menschheit und Natur wird sich vereinen in Eine allumfassende Gottheit.”[7]

I will give you one more quotation, this time from Schlegel´s Lucinde, in which almost every aspect of Romantic love can be recognised: 

Ja! ich würde es für ein Märchen gehalten haben, daß es solche Freude gebe und solche Liebe, wie ich nun fühle, und eine solche Frau, die mir zugleich die zärtlichste Geliebte und die beste Gesellschaft wäre und auch eine vollkommene Freundin.

Julius, the protagonist, finishes his career as a gallant lover, as a seducer of inexperienced young women and as a visitor of brothels in a union in which his mistress, for the first time, fulfils every felt or known need. Lucinde is his housewife, the mother of their daughter, the affectionate and tender mistress, the perfect friend, the hostess of their circle and the welcomed company. She is ”eine für alles” – one for everything. Julius describes what he has been looking for and has been allowed to receive from Lucinde:

Denn in der Freundschaft besonders suchte ich alles, was ich entbehrte und was ich in keinem weiblichen Wesen zu finden hoffte. In dir habe ich es alles gefunden und mehr als ich zu wünschen vermochte; [...] du fühlst alles ganz und unendlich, du weißt von keinen Absonderungen, dein Wesen ist Eins und unteilbar. [...] und darum liebst du mich auch ganz und überläßt keinen Teil von mir etwa dem Staate, der Nachwelt oder den männlichen Freunden. Es gehört dir alles und wir sind uns überall die nächsten und verstehn uns am besten. Durch alle Stufen der Menschheit gehst du mit mir von der ausgelassensten Sinnlichkeit bis zur geistigsten Geistigkeit... [8]

In Julius’ perspective, Lucinde is a woman who is not split into multiple pieces of social roles, she is ”one and indivisible”, a real individual. And she also loves Julius as a real individual, not leaving any part of him to the various obligations of modern society. The Romantic couple enjoys each other, integrating all pleasures of love: from the ”most hilarious sensuality up to the most intellectual spirituality”. In a historical perspective, this can be understood as an integration of several epochal concepts of love and intimacy: the concept of Platonic love, the concept of love as passion and gallantry in which sensuality and eroticism are separated from matrimony, and the British concept of companionship. Romantic love is an integrating program of communication. Julius declares.

“Es ist alles in der Liebe: Freundschaft, schöner Umgang, Sinnlichkeit und auch Leidenschaft; und es muß alles darin sein, und eins das andre verstärken und lindern, beleben und erhöhen.”[9]

Love includes everything: friendship, good company, sensuality, passion, and everything must be part of it because the ingredients are enhancing and amplifying each other.

2. Self-description of society: differentiation as fragmentation 

It is a striking case of synchronism that during the last five years of the 18th century the most important German poets reflect on the new state of society. Not philosophers like Fichte, Schelling or Hegel are the first theoreticians of functional differentiation, but – among others – Schiller, Hölderlin and Schlegel. After Diotima´s death, the totally disappointed Hyperion, entering Germany without expecting too much, observes a nation in the mode of dissipation and alienation. He misses human beings as human beings, the individual seems to be torn into pieces. Hyperion writes:

Ich kann kein Volk mir denken, das zerrißner wäre wie die Deutschen. Handwerker siehst du, aber keine Menschen, Denker, aber keine Menschen, Priester, aber keine Menschen, Herren und Knechte, Jungen und gesetzte Leute, aber keine Menschen.

Indeed, there are persons in Germany doing their jobs and performing their roles as it can be expected from craftsmen and philosophers, priests and superiors, but there is a total lack of human beings in an emphatic sense. In Hyperion´s perspective, modern Germany looks like a field of war:

Ist das nicht, wie ein Schlachtfeld, wo Hände und Arme und alle Glieder zerstückelt untereinander liegen, indessen das vergoßne Lebensblut im Sande zerrinnt?

Ein jeder treibt das Seine, wirst du sagen [...], [und erstickt in Wahrheit jene] Kraft, [die] nicht [...] zu seinem Titel paßt, [ein jeder] ist [...] in ein Fach gedrückt, wo [...] der Geist nicht leben darf.[10]

Everybody acts in the way expected from society; any aspect of personality not needed to perform the roles provided by the social systems is neglected. Society seems to be an ”anthill” (S. 92). Hyperion compares the fate of his age with Procrustes who used to throw his prisoners into a small cradle and cut off all the parts of their bodies that did not fit in (S. 157). In just the same way, modernity dissects its children, in order to make them fit in and perform their services in the ”slave-mills” (S. 161) of society.

It is Friedrich Schiller who gave in his Ästhetische Erziehung des Menschen, published in 1795, an outstanding description of the end of the corporate state and the transition into modern modes of differentiating and coding communication. Starting point of his considerations is the following observation: The identity of a human being, up to that moment completely determined by the affiliation to state, guild, house, family, age or gender, is at stake now. The human being, thus far thought indivisible, has been torn into “fragments”, which is why the re-integration into an intact unit becomes a strong motive for Romantic utopias. Sociologically speaking, one could diagnose a division into system-specific service- and client-roles; and the handling of these roles alone decides the question of the inclusion of persons into system-communications. Not birth, state, or inherited privileges, but specific knowledge and acquired qualities are now decisive for the promotion of persons in society. The reason is, as Schiller has noted in a sensitive as well as irritated way, that ”state and church, laws and customs, leisure and work”, in short: every social area formerly integrated into corporations, status, guilds and households, are now ”separated into pieces”. The modern human being is thus reduced to a mere ”Formular”, a “form” that is filled out depending on the included “business”. “Indifferent towards character”, Schiller claims, politics, economy, law, science and religion are only interested in “fragmentary parts” of the human being, i.e. in his or her roles as voters, customers, attorneys, subjects, culprits, patients, taxpayers or churchgoers. The “individual skills” necessary for the adequate performance in the communication process of the functional systems are developed and cared for by the systems themselves and ”zu einer großen Intensität [...] getrieben”, when, on the other hand, all “remaining talents” that are not included are neglected. Specialisation is one effect of this process, alienation the other:

Der Dichter vergöttlicht die Einbildungskraft, der Philosoph die Vernunft, der Geschäftsmann den gesunden Menschenverstand, und der Epikuräer die Sinnlichkeit. Der Kaufmann sieht stolz auf den Gelehrten herab, dieser verachtet den Künstler, die Gelehrten selbst bemitleiden sich unter einander [...] Der Mathematiker findet keinen Geschmack an der Dichtkunst, der Dichter an der Mathematik, der Jurist an der moralischen Religionslehre, der Theolog an der Rechtslehre...[11]

Like Hölderlin´s Hyperion, Schlegel´s Lucinde is also influenced by Schiller´s observations. As can be expected from 18th century semantics, Schlegel focusses his observations on the difference between the human being as such and his social roles. Human personality is located in the inside of a person, social roles are described as ephemeral phenomenons. “Was wir ein Leben nennen, ist für den ganzen ewigen innern Menschen nur ein einziger Gedanke, ein unteilbares Gefühl”, Julius declares, and we are told that he is involved “an allem Äußern” without any “Zweck und Maß in seinem Innern”.[12]Julius experiences a strange distinction between his public acting and his internal feeling and thinking. The essential part of himself Julius locates in his inside: “Sein ganzes Wesen war gleichsam von der Oberfläche zurückgetreten nach dem Innern” (S. 49). Everything that has constituted the essence of a person in the corporate state: his or her manner of appearance, clothing, coat of arms or hairdo, is now regarded as peripheral. How Julius dresses himself, which ”house” he descends from, which religion he belongs to, how high his property amounts are, or whether he will inherit a title we are not told, because this kind of information is regarded as impersonal and secondary. But the problem is that modern society is based exactly on these trivialities and that the procedures of the functional systems have only access to the external, visible roles of the person and not on his or her intrinsic and special individuality. This discrepancy between the reality of society and the high esteem ofindividuality makes the boom of those Romantic utopias plausible which promise a future where every talent and quality of a person will be included in society, where every part will be integrated in the whole, where no force of specialisation will alienate the rich facilities of the individual. 

3. Therapies

The Romantic epoch knows many ways leading out of this mess of modernity into a postmodern unity of the individual and society, of inside and outside. Around 1800, only one utopian aim is being discussed, but different models of achieving this aim. Romanticism suggests to escape the constraints of modern society in the medium of aesthetic education, of religion, mythology, or love. All these visions proceed in the same manner: One single discourse or communication system is selected which is meant to function as a paradigm for the future organisation of society. This paradigm is supposed to have such an influence that other discourses and systems as well as the alienated people will follow its example. For Schiller, poetry is such a prototype of the playful integration of parts and the whole. Novalis hopes that the Catholic religion will re-unite the European nation-states and their people in the frame of a neo-mediaeval empire where everybody knows his place again. Or a ‘new mythology’ is thought to be the medium of the re-unification of the dissected and divided powers, roles, and interests. All these expectations have an intrinsic paradox in common: that a discourse or system which is in itself only possible as a consequence of functional differentiation, such as the modern systems of literature, education, or religion, serves as a vehicle of de-differentiating modern society. Furthermore, the poet, the educator, the politician, or the believer, who is thought to transform modern society into a postmodern unity, always acts himself within the framework of his specific roles. Nevertheless, Romanticism expects the functional differentiation of society to be overcome by one functional system and its highly specialised members. So, in short,it seems to be the patient who prescribes and executes his own therapy.

4. Love in Schlegel´,s Lucinde: past and present epochs of coding intimacy

Schlegel´s novel is a hybrid composed of very different elements: dialogues, letters, first person and third person narratives, tales, essays, and reflections. This general potential of the modern novel to integrate a variety of genres, Schlegel uses to show Julius’ career as a lover from different angles. Regarding this material, one could reconstruct an individual process of development which corresponds to the history of humanity from Greek antiquity via present modernity to utopian post-modernity. The merit of this observation goes to Hannelore Schlaffer[13] who has led scholars‘ attention to the correlation of Romantic philosophic speculation on history and the Romantic concept of love. Her main thesis is that philosophic speculation structures the narrative, especially the part called ”Lehrjahre der Männlichkeit” which is generally seen as the heart of the novel. Prima vista, this observation is convincing: Three women are playing a mayor role in Julius´ socialisation: Luise, Lisette, and Lucinde. The names as such hint to historical concepts, stressed further in the description of Julius’ engagement with these women. Luise connotes Arcadian innocence, Lisette sounds French, modern and coquette, and Lucinde? Well, Mrs. Schlaffer will give her answer later. First, she suggests that Luise and Lisette indicate the epochs of antiquity and modernity. The situations in which Julius is being confronted with these women, validate this thesis. Luise is, in fact, very young and very innocent when Julius is trying to seduce her. She is the perfect naïve, just nature seems to guide her actions, which is a rare case in an epoch where, as Schiller has observed, a ”sentimental” attitude regulates the relationship between man and nature. Luise’s unaffected simplicity and natural charms connote Grecian grace. Her young age, ”an der Grenze der Kindheit” (S. 37), simplifies the association with the ancient age when mankind itself was still young. – In contrast, Lisette is a fallen girl. Born into a good family and carefully brought up, she was seduced and corrupted as a young woman. At the time Julius meets her she is working as a high-class whore for rich Englishmen. Lisette shows a typically modern character, that is, in a Romantic perspective, a disunited, disharmonious and dissipated one. She is gifted with erotic skills and executes her job sometimes in cold blood, another time in Bacchanalian rage; she would be full of sentimental feelings about her lost virtue and, simultaneously, be greedy and desirous of earning more money. The great dualism’s of philosophical thinking: body and mind, or nature and art, are mixed together in Lisette’s character without any hope of reuniting the fragments harmonically. After she has been abandoned by Julius, Lisette spontaneously commits suicide. Julius then leaves modernity - like a dead corpse – behind, heading towards a relationship which promises to integrate the best of the preceding eras. Lucinde, in Hannelore Schlaffer´s opinion, symbolises a utopian epoch in which the differentiated systems of society and the divided attributes of the individual become a unity. Consequently, Julius experiences his love to Lucinde as transition into a state where everything is complete, where no quality or specialisation is achieved by the sacrifice of other potential qualities. We are told that Julius

“glaubte alles in ihr vereinigt zu besitzen, was er sonst einzeln geliebt hatte: die schöne Neuheit des Sinnes, die hinreißende Leidenschaftlichkeit, die bescheidne Tätigkeit und Bildsamkeit und den großen Charakter.” (S. 56)

The singular attributes of his former liaisons are incorporated in his love to Lucinde. In this context, love and life become inseparably united. As Schleiermacher observes in his “Intimate Letters on Lucinde” (1800): “die ganze Liebe und das ganze Leben” coincide.[14]This unity of passion, friendship, eroticism, sensuality and matrimony is self-sufficient in its social dimension – the couple separates itself from its social environment and only converses with a very few friends, an elitist model like Schiller’s ”Staat des schönen Scheins” –, and is completed in its temporal dimension – there is no epochal change, there is no future expected, the mode of love is eternity. If this Romantic love is taken as an allegory of contemporary utopian hopes, its structure equals the condition of post-modernity: Future does not longer matter, formerly separated discourses are re-integrated. A love including every personal aspect and assimilating every social role can, therefore, function as a utopian paradigm for further social evolution. Love seems to be just another answer to the romantic question of how to overcome modernity, like Schiller’s ”Aesthetic education” or Novalis´ project of a neo-Catholic, unified Europe. 

Mrs. Schlaffer has given a persuasive interpretation of Julius´ love to the three mayor female protagonists in Schlegel´s novel, but – beside her disregard of Julius’ other engagements and his own leading motives – she does not care about the question which problem of historical philosophy it actually is to which love is meant to give an answer. If one considers that Lucinde is a mistress totally different from all the others – what makes her attractive not only for her lover, but also for Romantic philosophy of history. I think that both philosophical speculation on history and literary imagination in the Romantic era are quarrelling with the same difficulties: to realise the transformation of the corporate state into modern society and to deal with its consequences. The social project of a not alienated civilisation where everybody can live out his facilities, and the erotic project of a symbiotic love where the fragmented and divided individuals are once again completely united have the following referential problem in common: that modernity decomposes the individual, that modern social systems only include roles, not human beings, that communicative addresses will only have a chance of connectivity if they use highly specialised codes in which authenticity does not matter, but acting. Romantic love is simulating an enclave where these modern burdens are banned; which is why Julius calls his relationship with Lucinde society as well as family:

”Lucinde verband und erhielt das Ganze und so entstand eine freie Gesellschaft, oder vielmehr eine große Familie” (S. 57)

Romantic love – as featured in Romantic romances – suggests family as a model for society. And not the poetic concept, but this proposition had success for a long period of time. In his ”Phenomenology of Spirit” (1807), Hegel claims that the state finds his prototypical form in the family.[15] Even Marx confirms this opinion, although in a renewed sense. Family, so Marx, is indeed the germ cell of state, but only as far as family is the first organisation where the division of labour takes part and in which a tendency towards slavery can be observed since ancient times.[16] Still, both philosophers detect the differentiated parts of society included in the family – that’s their Romantic heritage.

Coming back to Schlegel: The genuine Romantic hopes in love and society failed in reality, but the Romantic ideal of the integration of love, companionship, sexuality and matrimony has survived in today´s semantics. ”The Romantic movement”, as Alain de Botton claims in his book about ”sex, shopping, and the novel”,[17] still finds its fans, but perhaps an advanced experiment like Schlegel’s can only convince in the world of literature, released from all risks and needs of modern everyday life. Love between Julius and Lucinde was a very interesting and thrilling concept, and it was entertaining or scandalising Schlegel’s readers and guaranteed a great literary success. But the prior connectivity, however, Romantic love has produced was inside literary communication: in the form of more novels. Outside of literature, the Romantic semantics of intimacy remained without successors. The type of convenient marriage, as depicted by Theodor Fontane, has won the race in reality. The claim of Romantic love to incorporate every part of oneself into an all-including relationship was exceptionally exclusive. In modern society even love should know its roles, institutions and times. The communication of intimacy is a coded and specialised social system as well – and not a paradigm to overcome functional differentiation. In German literary history, people lost interest in Romantic love in the second third of the 19th century. Authors like Fontane started their narratives at a point where Romantic novels ended: with a match, ready to proceed with the exploration of the destruction of love, families and relationships. Adultery becomes a fascinating topic in Realistic literature: Realistic novels like ”Effi Briest” quote the motives of Romantic love only to mock or to treat them ironically. The Romantic post-modernity is past.



[1] Hölderlin: Fragment von Hyperion, KSA Bd. 3, S. 170.
[2] Hölderlin: Fragment von Hyperion, KSA Bd. 3, S. 177.
[3] Hölderlin: Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland, KSA Bd. 3, S. 71.
[4] Hölderlin: Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland, KSA Bd. 3, S. 64.
[5] Hölderlin: Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland, KSA Bd. 3, S. 77.
[6] Hölderlin: Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland, KSA Bd. 3, S. 166.
[7] Hölderlin: Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland, KSA Bd. 3, S. 94.
[8] Schlegel: Lucinde, KFSA, 1. Abt. Bd. 5, S. 10f.
[9] Schlegel: Lucinde, KFSA, 1. Abt. Bd. 5, S. 35.
[10] Friedrich Hölderlin, Hyperion oder der Eremit in Griechenland (1797/99), in: KSA Bd. 3, S. 160.
[11] Johann Adam Bergk, Die Kunst, Bücher zu lesen, Jena 1799, S. 105f.
[12] Friedrich Schlegel, Lucinde, in: KFSA, 1. Abt. Bd. 5, S. 12, S. 39.
[13] Hannelore Schlaffer, Frauen als Einlösung der romantischen Kunsttheorie, in: Jahrbuch der Schillergesellschaft, 21. Jg., 1977, S. 274-296.
[14] Friedrich Schleiermacher, Vertraute Briefe über Lucinde (1800), Leipzig 1907, S. 285.
[15] “Der Mann wird vom Familiengeiste in das Gemeinwesen hinausgeschickt und findet in diesem sein selbstbewußtes Wesen; wie die Familie hierdurch in ihm ihre allgemeine Substanz und Bestehen hat, so umgekehrt das Gemeinwesen an der Familie das formale Element seiner Wirklichkeit und an dem göttlichen Gesetze seine Kraft und Bewährung.” (Hegel: Phänomenologie des Geistes, Werke, Frankfurt/M 1979, Bd. 3, S. 338f)
[16] “Die Teilung der Arbeit ist auf dieser Stufe noch sehr wenig entwickelt und beschränkt sich auf eine weitere Ausdehnung der in der Familie gegebenen naturwüchsigen Teilung der Arbeit. Die gesellschaftliche Gliederung beschränkt sich daher auf eine Ausdehnung der Familie: patriarchalische Stammhäupter, unter ihnen die Stammmitglieder, endlich Sklaven. Die in der Familie latente Sklaverei entwickelt sich erst allmählich mit der Vermehrung der Bevölkerung und der Bedürfnisse und mit der Ausdehnung des äußern Verkehrs, sowohl des Kriegs wie des Tauschhandels.” (Marx: Die deutsche Ideologie, MEW Bd. 3, S. 22)
[17] London 1995.